What To Do When You Miss Your Ex

Hello Lovely,

Summer is coming and with that a lot of flings, break ups and regret. If you're like me, you're heading into summer single. But don't be bitter about it. And for the love of God, put down the phone, do not call them! It's over! I know it's not easy to just walk away from a relationship especially if it last several years and there were talks of marriage. You're going to miss them, you will. It may not be now, but there will come a time when you ask yourself, "What if?" You can't allow yourself to stay in the pits about it. Here are 5 tips to help you get through those moments when you miss your ex.  

Disable Your Social Media Accounts

You could delete your social media accounts, but this is a bit extreme. Instead, it’s better to unfriend them and unfollow them on all social media accounts. When you miss your ex, it’s really tempting to pop onto Facebook and see how they're doing. But this just makes everything so much worse. You see that he’s doing just fine without you, and it makes you feel bad. (Or maybe you see that you were right to leave because nothing has changed and they're still the same jack wad you got tired of dealing with). Either way, it’s a much better idea to spend some time away from social media for a while. Give yourself some breathing space. I'm sure you're tired of answering people's questions about why your status changed from "In a Relationship" to "Single".

Get Outside

Staying in bed all day waiting for her to reply to your “I miss you” text might sound like a great idea right now. After all, you can’t even summon the motivation needed to get out of bed, let alone leave your house. But this is unhealthy and will only make you feel a lot worse. And while I understand that you want to be left alone right now, you’re reading this article for a reason. And I think it’s a fab idea that you head outdoors.

Getting out and about among people will help you to forget about him or her for a while. Your mind will be excited by new experiences, sensations, smells, sights and so on. You could take a walk, travel to a new city or just hang out with friends in a coffee shop.

Soaking up fresh air and exposing yourself to the sunshine will remind you that there is life beyond the boy/girl. They were good, but they weren’t everything.

Channel Demi Lovato's "Sorry Not Sorry"

I LOOOOOOOOVE this song! And it's not just the ultimate break up song. Every time I hear this, I just want to sing it to everyone who ever doubted me, put me down or tried to hurt me. It's a reminder that at the end of the day, you've got to always be your best self and prove the haters wrong. You don't need to be sorry for being awesome or for having high standards. Make them sorry for not seeing and appreciating that beauty within you.

Work on Your Revenge Body

This is probably the hardest one on the list. You probably gained a lot of that comfortable "relationship weight" (similar to the freshman 15), because you thought you'd never have to look for another lover again. And comfort food is so real right now, because no one heals you better than a pint of your favourite ice cream (or a pan of macaroni, not judging). But if you focus too much on eating your feelings, you're taking away from the outside beauty that can lead to finding the one. Sure "the one" should love you regardless, but let's be real, we all have our limits and preferences when it comes to love. So whether it's cutting back, going back to school, hitting the gym or meditating, do what you need to do to create a better version of yourself.

Don’t Think About “What If …”

We’ve all been there. We’ve all dwelt on ‘what if’s …’ and imagined what life would be like if only we’d have done this or that differently. But the ‘what if …’ game is the cruelest game of all, and we always lose. We like to create these stories and imagine false illusions and fantasies of a better life. We like to roll the dice for a second time in our heads and smile at better results. But reality is not like that and never will be. Had you the chance to go back in time and do everything again, you would make the same decisions. Nothing would change. Everything happens for a reason, and the reason you did the things you did is because it felt right at the time. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Forget about the past and live in the present. It is what it is.

You had a great time with your ex and you miss them. And maybe you’re thinking about what could have been had things not ended.

But things ended for a reason. So why not take some time to analyse what went wrong in your relationship? In this way, you can learn from your mistakes so that you don’t repeat them in your next relationship.

Stay happy!

Calling All Golfers!

Hello lovely

Are you a golf fan? Maybe you only play for fun, or maybe you've never played at all. Well then, listen up! Coming up next week Friday is the first ever BPGT (Bahamas Professional Golf Tour) at the Royal Blue Golf Course at Baha Mar. One of the goals of the BPGT is to create a competitive environment for local pros and amateurs to compete, while bridging the gap for junior golfers to transition to amateur and college golf. How are they planning on doing this?

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The tour plans on handing out scholarships every year. Ricardo Davis Jr. believes that a lot of kids stop playing golf because they lack the support they need to get to the next level. Every month there will be a golf event with the scholarship awarded annually. There are already 40 participants competing for the grand prize so if golf is your thing, you need to sign up now!

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For more information about how you can get involved by either competing, attending or sponsoring, check out the video and flyer below.

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See you at the Royal Blue Golf Club on May 25 at Baha Mar!

Why Blogging is More Work Than It Seems

Why Blogging is More Work Than It Seems

It's 2018, people around the world are able to create an online empire from the comfort of their own bed and make a ton of dolla from it. Young women are pioneering the idea that you can create a brand out of yourself and turn it into a fully fledged career - running your own business, working for yourself, earning a good income all by creating content around what you're doing, thinking and wearing. But honestly, blogging as been a lot more work than I anticipated. Here’s why.

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5 Mother's Day Activities So That You And Mom Can Bond As Adults

Hello Lovely,

Now that you're a real life grownup, you can forego the "family-friendly" plans and treat Mom to more Mother's Day activities for adults this year. And that doesn't necessarily mean taking Mom out for bottomless brunch mimosas. (But if you do decide to go down that road, please know that you have my unwavering support.) I'm talking about treating Mom like an equal this Mother's Day — treating her like a friend. So why not give Mom a 24-hour break from responsibility, and treat her to a Mother's Day activity you can enjoy together, as grown adults?

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1. Go Wine Tasting

My mum can't drink wine because she really can't handle her liquor, but if that's not an issue for your mum you should find a wine tasting to take her two. We have two free wine tastings every month on Thursdays, one at Young's Fine Wine in Sandyport and the other at Mahogany House, Lyford Cay. And best of all they're free!

2. Attend A Food Festival

We don't have a food festival happening this weekend, but how nice would it be to go to a cultural event together? If anyone wants to start this tradition, just know that I came up with the idea first, thanks 😜

3. Take That Vacation She Always Wanted

If it weren't such a bad time in the school year, I would totally take my mum away on holiday. I actually wanted to take her to Cuba for Mother's Day but it never worked out. My mum really wants to go to Missouri after seeing how much fun I had, so we may do that for Christmas. If you have the time, I'd suggest taking your mum away for the weekend somewhere real nice. And if the destination is too far, why not a staycation at a local hotel?

4. Take a Class Together

In 2008 my mum and I took a card-making class together. It was amazing! My parents had recently divorced so I loved that bonding time between us. The class isn't around any more, but whether it's Sip and Paint, Paint Your Own Pottery or even an exercise class, this time together is perfect for you and mum to learn more about each other and get better at a particular craft.

5. Mother's Day Brunch

There are a lot of brunches this weekend for Mother's Day with a lot of specials. My mum is going to Regatta at Baha Mar with her cousins on Sunday for brunch for a little girl's getaway. Treat mum to a nice meal for mother's day and give her the day off from cooking.

 

Is Randomise The New Party Game?

Hello Lovely,

I'm here with another product review for you guys. The game is called Randomise and it is offered by a UK company.

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What is Randomise?

In this game, players are given random identities – such as a dizzy robot bungee jumping,  a confused octopus eating spaghetti or a disguised giraffe playing air guitar – and can choose whether to act, describe or draw their identity for their team mates to guess. The rules are simple, but with more than a million random identity combinations possible, every game is different…

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How to play

Split into two teams and alternate taking turns. When it is your turn, you must declare whether you are going for an EASY or HARD challenge, and whether you are going to DESCRIBE, ACT or DRAW your way to victory. Then select a card from each of the three piles of cards (A, B and C). The opposing team will then give you three random numbers from 1 to 3 (eg. ‘3,1,2’).Look at the words on the cards that match these numbers to discover your new identity. Card A will always describe you (eg. Happy, Hairy, Vain), card B will tell you what you are (eg. Octopus, Astronaut, Lion) and card C will tell you what you are doing (eg. Eating spaghetti, Playing football, Baking a cake).

When you are ready, the opposing team will get ready to time your turn, and you will have 30, 60 or 90 seconds to reveal yourself:

  • DESCRIBE – You have 30 seconds to use your voice to communicate your identity. You can’t say any of the words on your cards or use rhyming words or letters to give clues.
  • ACT – You have 60 seconds to use your body to communicate your identity. You can’t make any noises, point or use any props.
  • DRAW – You have 90 seconds to use your artistic skills to communicate the phrase. You can’t draw any letters or numbers.

Your team can shout out as many guesses as they like. The aim is to get them to shout out your complete identity before your time is up. Scoring works as follows:

  • ALL LEVELS – You get 1 point for every card your team successfully guesses (max 3 per turn)
  • EASY turns – You get 1 bonus point if your team shouts out your full identity before your turn is up – eg. ‘Nervous mole eating spaghetti’
  • HARD turns – You get 3 bonus points if your team shouts out your full identity.
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Stealing bonus points

If your team doesn’t shout out your full identity before the time is up, the opposing team has a chance to steal the bonus points. They can confer, and then have one guess at your full identity. If correct, they steal the bonus points (1 or 3 depending on difficulty level).

Winning the game

The first team to reach 30 points claims victory! But if this team started, then the opposing team will have one turn to equalise/steal the victory. In the case of a draw, you can play sudden death, awarding victory as soon as one team takes the lead after both teams have taken a turn.

When I first played Randomise, it was with my students at school. Despite the fact that the game is designed for kids, they did not understand the game at all. No matter how many times I explained it, my kids from grades 3-6 just couldn't get it. I realised the biggest issue was they didn't know what some of the words meant, like goth and  kingfisher because these are words we don't use every day in our vernacular. So i tried it with my teens during one of our group therapy sessions and they thought it was hilarious! It was a great social skill builder to help them form stronger bonds. But when I tried this game with my girlfriends at my Galentine's Day party, they did not enjoy the game at all. They found the instructions to be confusing, a little boring and truthfully we really only lasted about four rounds. See for yourself below

So is this a good party game? It depends on who's playing. Teens really seem to enjoy it, but kids and adults seem confused by the antics. I would suggest using this game as a part of play therapy and even with special needs kids if they're up for the challenge. It's a great game to let yourself go and be silly for a moment and I plan on using it more in a group therapy context. If you want to buy a copy of this game, you can get it here for only £11.40!

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Would you buy the game? Have you already tried it? Share your thoughts in the comment section below!

Campanelle with Shrimp & Mushrooms in White Wine Cream Sauce

Campanelle with Shrimp & Mushrooms in White Wine Cream Sauce

Earthy, delightful mushrooms are front and center in this seafood dish.  It’s hearty and deliciously interesting and affirms once again that mushrooms, seafood and pasta are great companions. The addition of a dry white wine to the sauce makes this indulgent dish too good to stick to one serving!

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Weekend Diaries: Bahamas Carnival 2018

Hello Lovely,

This weekend was a much needed fun break. Everything around me had become so negative I really needed a night out with the girls enjoying my favourite soca artists. I started the weekend by finally watching Avengers: Infinity War with my dad. We always watch Marvel and Star Wars movies together and it's usually opening day but lately our schedules haven't quite lined up for us to be able to do that. I loved the movie but don't worry, you won't find any spoilers from me. I hate spoilers.

Saturday wasn't off to a good start for me. Even though I got to take my niece out,  my mum and I got a late start on the errands we needed to run, and while out, my pants randomly ripped straight down the middle. At first I was really annoyed and embarrassed but then I decided I am too old to let this be a problem and I reframed it as my butt is getting so big it ripped the pants.😜 I was on a rampage to get something to eat but you know how it is when you're hungry but you don't know what you want to eat? And then everywhere we went was closed. I finally settled on Solomon's Fresh Market but was annoyed to pay $9 for two pieces of macaroni and some carrots and cauliflower. We still didn't get to finish all of our errands we set out to do, but at least the day was beginning to look better.

 

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I got dressed and headed over to Krista so that we could carpool for Carnival. I was really excited to see Machel again (I call him my Trini baby daddy 😍), as well as the plethora of performers that night. I didn't do the Road March even though I really wanted to because I just can't spend over $200 on a costume I can only wear once. But hopefully next year, something will work out.

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We upgraded our tickets to VIP to be closer to the stage. I missed Rik Carey but we were just in time for Dyson Knight and Wendi. To me, they are just the most adorable power couple. Their love and support for one another is super cute and they're both very talented and experienced artists. Along with other artists, I think they play a role in making Bahamian music fun again for young people. There were also performances from Ricardo Dru, Shurwayne Winchester, Mr. Vegas, Dj Khaled, Movado and Machel Montano with special guest appearances from Patrick Anthony - The Hype Man, International Stephen, DJ Overdose, and The Wassi One.

The performances were too amazing to ever forget! At times, with being so close to the stage ,my left eardrum felt like it was going to explode; but even my injured knee was not going to stop me from jumping and whining. Here are just a few highlights from the night's festivities.

I really enjoyed the Carnival Experience. It's sad that there are still so many people against such a fun experience just because it's not our culture. We can't want to be considered West Indian/Caribbean but reject aspects of the culture.

In addition to the concert, I finally took some time out to treat a few skin imperfections starting with teabags under the eyes to treat darkness and under eye puffiness. Now if only I can maintain healthy self-care while trying to be productive and seeking to create a social life 😂. How was your weekend? Did you attend any of the Carnival events?

XoX,

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Goombay Smash Margarita

Hello Lovely,

Tomorrow is Cinco de Mayo and I still don't have anything planned to do. I've got to work an event and then there's the Carnival concert with Machel, but it just doesn't feel like enough, you know? So while I figure that out, I came up with this refreshing margarita. I was so excited to drink it, I forgot to salt the rims of my glasses, oops! And if there's no way you can make this in time for tomorrow, don't worry! Margarita’s are not just for celebrating Cinco de Mayo – they’re a refreshing, everyday summer cocktail. And combining the bright flavors of citrus with tequila shouldn’t break your calorie bank.

This margarita recipe is simple enough to whip up at the last minute but complex enough to have a great flavor. I love that you can scale them up to make a large bowl of punch for your Cinco de Mayo party (to serve alongside your favorite skinny chicken tacos, of course!). Then, all you need to decide is if you’re a salt-rimmed on-the-rocks margarita lover or you prefer no-salt and crushed ice.

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Goombay Smash Margarita

Ingredients

  • 1 12 oz. Goombay soda
  • 1 part tequila
  • 1 part rum
  • 1 lime wedge per glass
  • salt

Directions

  1. In a cocktail mixer, combine the soda, tequila and rum.
  2. Coat the rim of your glasses with the lime wedge then dip the rim in salt
  3. Pour beverage into salted glasses then add the lime wedge. Enjoy! Happy Cinco de Mayo everyday! Party responsibly!
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