What I'm Reading & Why I Chose An Anti Self-Help Book

Hello lovely,

I’m so guilty of ignoring reading. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy reading, but my life is drastically different now from the days when I was able to finish thick books in three days or less. I used to read long after my parents sent me to bed, and often travelled with a book everywhere I went in case it was boring. Now worry that I have so much going on that I just don’t make the time. And even when I do have the time, I find myself thinking about other things and unable to concentrate. But when I saw this book in my best friend’s house on Christmas, I just had to have it! After she lent it to me, I couldn’t wait to dive in, but of course I made excuses. It wasn’t until j forced myself to sit down and read it, did I realise why this was the book I NEEDED in my life. The book is called F*ck Feelings by Dr. Michael and Sarah Bennett.

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I genuinely only read books that contain profanity because it feels real. I’m not perfect, so I don’t need a book that pretends to be perfect. And that’s why I chose an “anti-self help” book. I know I don’t have my life together, but I just can’t relate to the yoga moms, who drink smoothies instead of eating real food and take a bunch of styled photos for Instagram. The book offered answers to common issues we face in adulthood. Even the description tells you:

Need to stop screwing up? Want to become a more positive person?
Do you work with an ass? Think you can rescue an addicted person?
Looking for closure after abuse? Have you realized that your parent is an asshole?
Feel compelled to clear your name? Hope to salvage a lost love?
Want to get a lover to commit? Plagued by a bully?
Afraid of ruining your kid? Ready to vent your anger?

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What are you reading now? If anyone picks up the F*ck Feelings book, I’d love to chat with you about it!

Books in Progress: What I'm Reading Right Now

Hello Lovely,

I used to looooooove reading! I was the kid that walked while reading and never bumped into anything. I always had a book in my hand so I was never bored. Whether it was an errand, a hurricane or punishment, I was content as long as I had a book. I only came up for food and then I would go right back to reading. So what happened to my love for books? I was getting mediocre grades because I would rather read a fiction book than my textbooks. In 10th grade, a light bulb went off and I suddenly realised if I wanted to do well in school, it was my school books I needed to read. Needless to say, I’ve been reading school books ever since. So either I didn’t have the time to read for fun, or I just couldn’t bring myself to read one more thing.

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Even though I’m about to go back to school again (teaching certificate) I’m trying to make more time for reading. I’m only currently reading 2 books right now. I’m extra picky with my books so it’s hard to find something I want to read. Every time I get the Kindle first email, I know immediately I won’t find something I like. I’m not one for spiritual, self help, non-fiction, YA, or romance books. I love a good story about a character who somehow manages to mess up their life, and no matter how much they try to fix it, they keep making it worse (art imitates real life I suppose). So when I found these books, I was drawn to them immediately!

Life After Coffee
By Virginia Franken

First of all, coffee is in the title, so that was a no-brainer for me. The summary below really drew me in and the fact that it was free on Kindle Unlimited was the deal closer. I’m halfway through it and honestly, I’m nothing like the main character so I find myself getting frustrated with her holier-than-though judgements on other people when her own life is a crumbling mess. In the words of the great Kendrick Lamar, “Sit down, be humble”. I can’t wait to see how it ends.

When globe-trotting coffee buyer, Amy O'Hara, assures her husband--who stays at home to watch the kids--that it is He Who Has it Harder... she doesn't really believe it. That is, until the day she gets laid off, her husband locks himself in the garage to write the Great American Screenplay and she discovers she's actually the world's most incompetent mother.

Overnight Amy's world is no longer one of farmer negations and upscale coffee tastings. Instead she's spending her days attempting to discover where exactly she went wrong with her two resentful Children and trying to carve out a place within her local tribe of put-together neighborhood moms. However as their family dynamic begins to change in both fun and frustrating ways, she's starting to ask herself the big questions: Can her marriage survive this kind of role reversal? How do you clean puke out from in between the seams of a car seat? And what does she really amount to when the job she thought defined her is removed from the equation?

One thing is certain: whatever happens, she's going to need a lot more caffeine.

I know that I said I’m not one for self-help books, but something about the title really caught my eye. When I started reading it, I fell in love with how brutally honest Rachel is.

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

Do you ever suspect that everyone else has life figured out and you don’t have a clue? If so, Rachel Hollis has something to tell you: that’s a lie.

As the founder of the lifestyle website TheChicSite.com and CEO of her own media company, Rachel Hollis developed an immense online community by sharing tips for better living while fearlessly revealing the messiness of her own life. Now, in this challenging and inspiring new book, Rachel exposes the twenty lies and misconceptions that too often hold us back from living joyfully and productively, lies we’ve told ourselves so often we don’t even hear them anymore.

With painful honesty and fearless humor, Rachel unpacks and examines the falsehoods that once left her feeling overwhelmed and unworthy, and reveals the specific practical strategies that helped her move past them. In the process, she encourages, entertains, and even kicks a little butt, all to convince you to do whatever it takes to get real and become the joyous, confident woman you were meant to be.

With unflinching faith and rock-hard tenacity, Girl, Wash Your Face shows you how to live with passion and hustle--and how to give yourself grace without giving up.

The Invisible Boy
By Trudy Ludwig

Because I’m a guidance counsellor, I love finding books that I can use with the kids. While I’m not very fond of the rushed ending, I’ve actually already read this book and think it would be great for 3rd and 2nd graders. Well maybe read isn’t the correct word. I found a read aloud of it on YouTube. Don’t you just love the internet?

A simple act of kindness can transform an invisible boy into a friend...

Meet Brian, the invisible boy. Nobody ever seems to notice him or think to include him in their group, game, or birthday party . . . until, that is, a new kid comes to class.

When Justin, the new boy, arrives, Brian is the first to make him feel welcome. And when Brian and Justin team up to work on a class project together, Brian finds a way to shine.

From esteemed author and speaker Trudy Ludwig and acclaimed illustrator Patrice Barton, this gentle story shows how small acts of kindness can help children feel included and allow them to flourish. Any parent, teacher, or counselor looking for material that sensitively addresses the needs of quieter children will find The Invisible Boy a valuable and important resource. 

Includes backmatter with discussion questions and resources for further reading. 

And that free bookmark I promised? I love this bookmark from It’s Always Autumn. It’s so cute! I’m currently using the box, owl and racoon as they’re my favourite woodland creatures. Which ones will you use?

What are you currently reading? Share your reading list and any recommendations you may have in the comment section below. Happy reading!