I Spent a Week Indulging in Self Care—Here’s What I Did

Hello lovely,

I love being busy. I usually tell people I thrive on busyness. I do my best work when there’s a little pressure on me to get everything done, and I’ve always been the person who puts a lot on her plate.

But lately, my balance has been off and I probably bit off more than I could chew. I knew something was wrong two weeks ago, when I found myself getting annoyed at every little thing. I even exploded on my boyfriend (more than once).

Don’t get me wrong, I love my job. I love my blog and I love having a full agenda. But… I’m exhausted and could use some much needed time away from the stress. So, I embarked on a week full of stress relief, self-reflection, and serious me-time.

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SUNDAY - FRIENDSGIVING

I began my week with a friendsgiving dinner by my best friend Richard’s house. It’s our second year doing this, and even with the usual delays we had a blast. It was great catching up with friends I hadn’t seen in over a month. Our group of friends love and fight like family, but the best part about this family is that I chose these people, so I’m happiest when I’m around them!

MONDAY - THE SIMS 4 AND QUALITY TIME

I’m really loving the new Sims 4 expansion pack: Get Famous. It’s probably the best expansion pack we’ve had since University Life in Sims 2. So I feel really relaxed and happy, when I can zone out for an hour or two and just enjoy it. I also got to spend some much needed quality time with my boyfriend. I finally got to watch the Patriot Act by Hasan Minhaj and everyone needs to watch that show!

TUESDAY - TIANA AND A NAP

On Tuesday Tiana surprised me at work. It’s always great to see my bestie, and Tuesday was a really slow day for me mentally so it was a much needed break. We walked around the campus, talking to students and teachers as we passed them. It was a much needed distraction. When I went home, I took a nap without setting an alarm. I felt really refreshed after that nap and was still able to get much needed work done.

WEDNESDAY - HALF=EARLY WORKOUT

Working in a school comes with it’s perks, like half days. We had an early dismissal on Wednesday because the high school’s Carol Service was that evening. So with this extra time, I was really excited to squeeze in an early workout. No one was on the park (not even my trainer who got there when I finished my last set of squats). It was so peaceful and exactly what I needed.

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THURSDAY - NAILS AND A PARTY

I normally get my nails done every two weeks, but my last nail design lasted three weeks. This time I was super excited to get a winter design because I’m counting down the days to Christmas! I ended the day at the Elevation Awards Nominee Announcement Party where I was nominated for Blog of The Year for a 2nd consecutive year. I’m really feeling confident this year as a contender!

FRIDAY - A NAP AND GAME NIGHT

Friday was particularly stressful. The day before, the principal of another school on the island died of a heart attack and was found slumped over his desk. This was probably the biggest eyeopener because today everything continued as normal. I’ve always read memes about not killing yourself for a job that will replace you when you die, but this was real. All of the guidance counsellors at my school vowed to never take our job home with us and enjoy time with family this weekend. At work, I’m one of the people responsible for our school’s Christmas play and child actors are probably the worst. If that wasn’t enough, before leaving there was drama that had to be investigated only to find out none of it was true. After work I was pretty exhausted. I wanted to get sushi but that didn’t work out because I totally fell asleep. While I was sad about the sushi, I have to admit, that nap left me feeling really rejuvenated. I ended the night playing the Sims again and all was right with the world.

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SATURDAY - VOLUNTEER WORK, CHRISTMAS SHOPPING AND CHRISTMAS MOVIES

This was probably the best day out of the week, although the way it started, it didn’t look like it would end well. I stopped for gas on my way to a community service event and ended up in a fender bender at the pump. Luckily it wasn’t severe. After the community service event, my mum and I ran some errands. We went looking for ornaments and found six that we really liked, but the options here really aren’t diverse enough. After checking out two lots we settled on THE tree for $125. My beau lifted the tree like it weighed nothing and got it in the stand for us like a pro. We watched a Lifetime Christmas movie together (A Very Nutty Christmas) and then I watched a A Twist of Christmas by myself. It was such a relaxing end to what could’ve been a stressful day and the perfect end to a week of self-care.

My week of self-care is officially over as I write this, and I’ve never felt so at ease and ready for the next week to begin. I feel an overall sense of calm, through mind and body. I also feel more confident in myself. I have a deeper sense of self-awareness, and my beau and I are communicating better than ever now that I’m coping better with stress as it arises.

If there’s anything this week taught me, it’s that self-care is the most critical thing anyone can do for themselves. Each act will look different for everyone but it has to be done intentionally. Now it’s your turn. I challenge you to take a week of self-care. You don’t have to start on Sunday, just indulge in self-care activities for 7 days. Pay attention to what makes you happy and what stress you out. Adjust and make time for yourself.

Working on Positive Self Talk

Hello Lovely,

Let’s face it—life can be rough sometimes. We all go through ups and downs. And you know I’ve definitely been through my share of moments, both good and bad. But here’s the thing. We can learn from our past and have it help shape our future. Today is day 10 of the #21DaysofMe Challenge and it's all about transformation and self love. In addition to three ways to show yourself some love, I'm going to share three things that I love about myself.

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Show Yourself Some Love

It really starts with giving yourself the love you deserve. Don’t beat yourself up—because you are enough. Wherever you are in your journey, that’s the best you can and should be. This is why even though I was really upset to have to eat at an expensive restaurant this past weekend, I ate the most expensive food I could find to engage in self-love. I ate oysters, mussels, shrimp and lobster tails (that was my entire dinner). For dessert, I finally had crème brulee and panacotta (I didn't like it). 

Real Talk

Boost yourself up, especially when you might be feeling down. Give yourself some positive words of encouragement! Maybe you leave notes for yourself on your bathroom mirror in lipstick. Maybe you just smile at your reflection. But be sure to share a kind word with yourself every once in awhile. I stood in the front of the mirror and told myself that I was awesome because at only 28, I may not have a serious romantic relationship like my friends, but I have a Master's Degree that I paid for on my own (no loan), I recently upgraded my car and I became the first and only certified Bahamian AutPlay Therapy Provider. I reminded myself that I have a lot going for myself and everything was beginning to line up for a brighter future.

Form Healthy Habits

Whether you work out every day or you’re just getting into your routine, that’s okay. Take it slow and work at your own pace. We’re all running our own marathons! When I first started going to the gym, it was really hard. Now I hate whenever I miss a day, and that I can only go three days a week.

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Check out this video by Demi Lovato, on transforming key areas of your life.

21 Day Challenge Simply Fit Board

Hello Lovely,

2017 is a brand new year and the perfect time to put our best foot forward when it comes to fitness. It's easy to give you guys a workout plan or healthy meals, but you have no way of knowing if any of it really works or if we're really doing it. So this month, I'm sharing my own personal fitness journey with the 21 Day Challenge for the Simply Fit Board. Lately my clothes don't quite fit like they used to and I refuse to buy clothes in a larger size. I'd rather just lose the weight and keep my clothes. I also want to work on my booty. It's way too small and that is not going to cut it in 2017, mmkay?

On my vacation, I walked every day and eventually purchased a Simply Fit Board for $40. I used it for 30 minutes every day for about four days before I had to return home. It was the easiest workout I've ever done. I would work for a bit, then take a break, hop on the board and twist for five minutes once an hour while watching TV. Breaking up the workout in 5 minute segments made it easier to manage instead of finding a convenient time to drop everything for half an hour (especially when I hadn't worked out seriously in months).

Shortly after purchasing the board, I found out about the 21 day challenge and immediately signed up. I took my before pictures (which I look a lot better than my first before pictures before I used the board at all), entered my last known weight and measurements and ate healthy leading up to today. I knew that exercising before starting the challenge would throw off my results so I held off until today.

I'm super excited to start this journey and I'll be happy to share the results with you at the end of the month. If you want to join, go to www.simplyfit21.com to sign up. Get the Nutrition Guide here and a Workout Calendar to plot all of your workouts up to May!

If you don't have the Simply Fit Board and you're not able to make that investment, you can try our other available workouts for 21 days and share your results using the hashtag #GetFit2017!

So will you be joining any fitness challenges this month?

Let us know in the comments! And good luck on your first challenge…

If Your Natural Hair Could Talk What Would It Say?

Hello Lovely,

When I got an email from Black Hair Information with this title, I thought, "What a silly title". But then I got thinking, this would make an excellent game to play! So I posed this question to the wonderful people in a Natural Hair group on Facebook and they sure did have fun with it! I was excited to see what their responses would be, and it would overwhelmingly positive. I was so happy to see so many black women loving their hair, and even making jokes about it. 

Now I know everyone doesn't talk to their hair, but everyone really should. Here's what the ladies had to say about their hair.

Aisha: My hair IS saying.. Look, I over stand the struggle, but on the real you ain't showing me no love. Can you please wash me already???!!!! 

Aisha: My hair IS saying.. Look, I over stand the struggle, but on the real you ain't showing me no love. Can you please wash me already???!!!! 

Antanette: Mine would say, thank you for ending the torture of chemical straightening, and constant heat. You take so much better care of me now I appreciate that!

Antanette: Mine would say, thank you for ending the torture of chemical straightening, and constant heat. You take so much better care of me now I appreciate that!

Mine would say .....dis gal is jus to care free......put me in 1 plz ....kml

Mine would say .....dis gal is jus to care free......put me in 1 plz ....kml

Camille: Mine would say, "I can get used to these twist outs" 

Camille: Mine would say, "I can get used to these twist outs" 

Charmaine: This could be us but you playing!

Charmaine: This could be us but you playing!

Chiara: So it's like that huh?!

Chiara: So it's like that huh?!

Marie: Mine would be like this does Not look like that YouTube tutorial smh

Marie: Mine would be like this does Not look like that YouTube tutorial smh

Me:  Mine is saying, "Okay you think you bad cause your hair still straight? Watch for you when you finally wash me!"

Me:  Mine is saying, "Okay you think you bad cause your hair still straight? Watch for you when you finally wash me!"

Nelly: Mines would say hello beautiful thanks for always keeping me protected from the heat and wind

Nelly: Mines would say hello beautiful thanks for always keeping me protected from the heat and wind

Rae: Mine would say "waaaater! Waaaaaater!" Lol

Rae: Mine would say "waaaater! Waaaaaater!" Lol

Reah: Mines would say get to together. Not everyday has to be a bad hair day, you can't rock every YouTube hair tutorial style all at once!

Reah: Mines would say get to together. Not everyday has to be a bad hair day, you can't rock every YouTube hair tutorial style all at once!

Regina: Mine is saying, I love you just as much as you love me! thank you for treating me so well.

Regina: Mine is saying, I love you just as much as you love me! thank you for treating me so well.

Sandena: My natural hair: How dare you cover me up under your weave?  Me: I'm only trying to protect you boo boo

Sandena: My natural hair: How dare you cover me up under your weave?

Me: I'm only trying to protect you boo boo

Sydra: Mine would say, "sooooo u allowed me to go back natural just to throw crochet braids on me?!" 

Sydra: Mine would say, "sooooo u allowed me to go back natural just to throw crochet braids on me?!" 

Tejada: My hair would say: shrinkage you bi...

Tejada: My hair would say: shrinkage you bi...

Tiffany: Mine would say, "Who asked you for colour? Ya too fresh and ya better not cause me to drop or else!"

Tiffany: Mine would say, "Who asked you for colour? Ya too fresh and ya better not cause me to drop or else!"

Ynise: Mine would say, "Hello, loverrrrrr!....FREEDOMMMM!!!!"

Ynise: Mine would say, "Hello, loverrrrrr!....FREEDOMMMM!!!!"

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5 Things to Try This Month

1. Un-decorate Your Home.

So let me get this straight, not only did I put everything up by myself, but I have to take it down by myself too!

So let me get this straight, not only did I put everything up by myself, but I have to take it down by myself too!

The Christmas season is officially over which means it's time to take down the decorations. I haven't taken mine down yet because I just got back last weekend, so I planned on taking them down this weekend. In my boyfriend's house, his step mom keeps the tree up all year long. I know that it can seem daunting to take down all of your holiday decorations right when December is over. I mean, just the Christmas tree alone is a messy hassle! This month, take down your decorations before you get sick of looking at them—and maybe even clean de-clutter while you’re at it too.

2. Add a New Twist to Your Favourite Go-To Cocktail

Can I drink all of these?

Can I drink all of these?

Sure, Baileys on the rocks, Sex on the Beach and Mimosas are hard to beat—but sometimes changing up tradition can be a good thing. Take your favourite cocktail recipe, and add a new flavour to it. My go-to is a glass of wine, so lately I've been adding various to the mix to make a Sangria for a little burst of flavour. But a White Chocolate Peppermintini is next on my must-try list.

3. Get Some New Tunes.

Dancing in the mirror, and singing in the shower (badly)!

Dancing in the mirror, and singing in the shower (badly)!


There’s nothing that puts more pep in our step than having some new tunes to blast. It can change the tone of your workout, your get togethers with friends, or your drive to work. Last month I discovered more music by a female rap artist named Snow Tha Product, which I love because I get to channel my inner gangster. I also finally let go of my dislike for Taylor Swift after the release of her latest album and I'm really digging her sound.

4. Send Hand-Written Thank you Notes.

Fanmail anyone? I'd love to hear from you!

Fanmail anyone? I'd love to hear from you!

Something that I've gotten really fond of lately, is sending hand written notes to people on custom designed stationary. It adds such a personal touch; and isn't that what life is about? Now that the holidays are over, it’s time to send your thanks to family and friends who were lovely enough to give you a gift. Have you ever received a hand-written thank you note for a gift you put a lot of thought into? I don’t know about you, but personally feel so appreciated afterwards. Write out those notes (on cute stationery, nonetheless!) and drop them at the post or drive to your friend and hand deliver it.

5. Pick up a New Book

'cause knowledge is power!

'cause knowledge is power!

I've started a book club this month and we're going to read After You, the sequel to Me Before You. Starting the year with a new book is awesome and you won't be alone! Red more about it here!