5 Things I Watched and Loved This Month

Hello Lovely,

There were a lot of cool new shows this month. Some shows were old, with new seasons, some movies were new or at least new to me. The best part of watching something fun, is sharing it with friends and co-workers. I loved going in to the office and holding conferences just to talk about the events from last night’s episode. So today I’m sharing the 5 Things I Watched and Loved this month!

To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before

As someone who read the book years ago, to open up Netflix one day and see this, I literally screamed! Very quickly here’s what it’s about: When her secret love letters somehow get mailed to each of her five crushes, Lara Jean finds her quiet high school existence turned upside down. ... Until the day her secret love letters go public -- and one of her crushes makes her an offer she can't resist. Sure the lead isn’t actually Korean (neither is Janel Parrish) but everything flowed so smoothly! I can’t wait for the sequel! This is a must watch because they really stuck to the book for the most part (Kitty is way too old in the Netflix version).

Atypical Season 2

It’s a dramedy about Sam Gardner (Keir Gilchrist), a teenager with autism, and the effect that his autism has on the rest of his family. The autism is what drew me in and made me want to watch. After getting certified in AutPlay Therapy in March, I try to learn as much as I can about the disorder.

I loved Season 1 and I loved the turn Season 2 took. As a therapist, I understand how easy it is to focus on the identified patient (Sam) but you have to pay attention to the family as well because the caretakers deal with so much more! To deny that their lives are equally as important is detrimental to the family function and leads to situations like what the family finds themselves in this season. It’s a must watch, but don’t watch it on your way to work like I did - I was in tears in the season finale from sheer feels!!!! Caution: This show will have you in your feelings!

13 Reasons Why Season 2

The first installment of the YA saga centered around Clay (Dylan Minnette), a Liberty High School student who received seven cassettes detailing the reasons his crush, Hannah Baker (Katherine Langford), committed suicide. Each episode unspooled as a side of one of the tapes, one by one connecting Clay's peers, popular and otherwise, to Hannah. After teasing that Hannah wasn’t the only one (duh - Jessica) Season 2 sent Clay and Tony on an unlikely mission to uncover something of a school-wide conspiracy.

I actually ended up arguing with bae about the logistics of rape because of this show. I’ll admit, there were parts I didn’t enjoy, like Clay’s bratty attitude towards his parents who really are doing their best with him. I so hate Marcus and Bryce, but I won’t offer any spoilers. As someone who struggles with both depression and anxiety, I sometimes had to take breaks in between episodes in season one, because I found myself getting a little depressed. I’ve recommended this show to teachers to help them learn how to recognise signs within their students so that we can intervene early.

Manifest

I love watching TV, but after so many of my favourite TV shows have ended there hasn’t been anything to fill the void, other than reality TV. So when I found out about Manifest (literally just found out on Sunday during a Law and Order marathon) I was beyond excited! The idea that 191 people presumed dead just randomly show up 5 years later, with no knowledge of any of this, was astounding (although not completely original).

A Million Little Things

Maybe September is the month of heartwarming stories (but not necessarily diverse characters). I saw the commercial for this a few times and decided to check it out. It premieres tonight so look out for my live tweeting to get my reaction. Until then, here’s the official synopsis: It has been said that friendship isn't one big thing, it's a million little things. That is certainly true for a group of friends from Boston who bonded under unexpected circumstances. Some have achieved success, others are struggling in their careers and relationships, but all of them feel stuck in life. After one of them dies unexpectedly, it's just the wake-up call the others need to finally start living. Along the way, they discover that friends may be the one thing that can save them from themselves.

Which shows did you enjoy the most this month? Share your favourite shows in the comment section below!

THE TRUTH ABOUT 9 LOVE RULES

Hello Lovely,

Dating rules have changed. Again. But even though the playing field has become a bit of uncharted territory, some traditional dating do's and don’ts still apply. Some people have rules for when you should call, how often or if at all. But don’t get swept up in trends and fads that leave you heartbroken. Learn the truth about 9 common (and some new) rules when it comes to dating!

1.      Say “I love you” every day.

Perhaps the most important love rule is to just say it. Say “I love you”. We often get so caught up in daily activities that we don’t always remind our loved ones how we feel. Some may say that if their partner needs to hear it every day, then they have a self-esteem issue. That could be true, but why risk letting your loved ones think you’ve taken them for granted. Life is short and unpredictable, love anyway; and let the people you love, know that you love them.

2.      Play hard to get.

This is the biggest destroyer of intimacy. If you’re looking for a true relationship, you can’t start it off by playing games. Deception has no place in romance. It’s one thing if you play hard to get and another if you really are hard to get. Sometimes we’re just so busy we need to be chased a little, yes. Or maybe we need to show our partner that we have standards and won’t fall for just anything. In those cases, these are fine. But intentionally misleading your partner to make them work harder than they should just because it amuses you or your friends will only lead to broken hearts, including your own.

3.      Your spouse shouldn’t be your best friend.

Whoever said this has no idea how to have a happy relationship. I tell my best friends everything (but not everything at the same time). When I’m in a relationship there are some things I’ll tell my partner and some things I won’t, but I’ll tell another best friend. Not because I don’t trust my partner with the information, but it just may not pertain to him. I expect to have full(ish) confidentiality, truthfulness and disclosure with my partner. This is how I view relationships: When you’re my best friend, I expect to talk to you every day or every other day. If I can go weeks without talking to you, then I don’t need you in my life. I’m fine without you, but I chose you to be in my life, so act like it. If your partner isn’t your best friend, then what are they and why are they in your life?

4.      Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

As I am in a long distance relationship, I can vouch for this. We can count on one hand how many times we will get to physically see each other per year so it definitely makes us value that time together. However, it doesn’t come without stress because texting, phone calls and Skype can only do so much (sorry technology). It’s not the real thing and for some people can lead to rifts in emotional connections, making people stray.

5.      You can learn to love someone.

Have you ever seen the Zoosk commercial with the slogan, “First comes like”? It’s a modern play on the old adage, “First comes love then comes marriage.” But if you know anything about dating, love does not come first. I’ll admit, when I saw my boyfriend’s online dating profile, it was love at first sight for me, quickly followed by a, “I don’t know about this” once I kept reading. But when we spoke, I learned to look past things that turned out not be such a big issue. Don’t think of it as settling. But also, don’t force yourself to love someone just for the sake of being with someone or because you’re afraid to hurt them. Love takes time, and you should learn to love everyone individually, as you build trust and friendship.

6.      Never go to bed angry.

I’m a firm believer in this one. I’ve learned with my boyfriend that just because I need to discuss something doesn’t mean that he is willing to discuss something and he has learned the same. But one thing we value is never going to bed angry. We always try our best to hash it out before saying goodbye, and ending things with “I love you”. There have been times when we just couldn’t reach a solution and I woke up the next day feeling angrier because I lost sleep over the issue. There have also been times when I woke up the next day over it and just ready to move on. So while you shouldn’t go to bed angry, don’t think that you have to solve every problem before hitting the hay. Sometimes letting the issue air out is best before you say something you’ll regret.

7.      Having kids will bring you closer.

This one is a lie from the pits of hell! Children are wonderful gifts from above, yeah, yeah, yeah. Children are huge energy and financial strains that you’re stuck with for life, not just 18 years. I’m 25 and still living at home with my mother! Any couple will tell you that you lose time, privacy, and intimacy. And don’t think that having kids will make him stay. If you’re not married, he has no reason to stay with you. He made no commitment to you, let alone this human being that you decided to bring into the world. I know girls whose boyfriend’s left them while they were pregnant. Work on your problems before the baby comes, because it’ll be a lot harder afterwards.

8.      You can never be too close.

SO FALSE! You guys are going to need your own space! I know you don’t want to take one another for granted but don’t smother them!

9.      Love conquers all.

Love does not conquer poverty, addiction, abuse or imprisonment. I know as Christians we are called to love unconditionally in our marriages, but we are not God and therefore do not have to put up with any form of abuse whether it be physical or emotional. We are worth more than that, and if our partner cannot see that, we do not have to stay miserable. I don’t care what anyone says; things like domestic and sexual abuse cannot be “prayed away”. Love is a big part of a lasting relationship, but shared values and commitment are still required.

TRAVEL DIARIES: Abaco

TRAVEL DIARIES: Abaco

On Friday November 6, I travelled to Treasure Cay Abaco for the first time, with the expectancy to return on Monday November 9, but I actually returned on Sunday, one day earlier. It was actually my first time taking a domestic flight. I’ve been to other family islands before like Harbour Island and Andros, but I always took the boat to get there. I went with one of my good friends... 

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