Tuesday 10: 10 Style Rules Every Girl Knows Like the Back of Her Hand

Find the Right Underwear

Spinning around and checking yourself out in the mirror is no longer enough. Grab your roommate or S.O. and have him or her snap a photo of your look from the front and back - especially if the material you're wearing is thin. Running outside and letting the natural light shine down on you isn't a bad idea, either. It's not just contrast colours you should keep your eyes peeled for, but pantylines or the hem of a slip.

 

Don't Incorporate Too Many Trends in 1 Look

We get it, the whole colorblock effect is cool, but don't overdo it. These patchwork jeans actually work well with metallic pumps, which up the fancy factor of the overall look. But if these heels were anything but neutral colors that work with anything, they might overshadow the detail on the denim. Know when to break up your look with a simple white tee, and remember that sometimes a little goes a long way - especially when it comes to supertrendy items.

Steer Clear of Drowning Yourself in an Oversize Silhouette

Got a maxi that's just too long or too big? Add a tight white tee to break it up and give off the illusion of a skirt. And don't let it take over! Playful pumps that accent a statement necklace work to round out your outfit and create balance.

Strike the Right Shoe-Pant Proportion

This mistake can happen with a pair of jeans and boots, palazzo pants and heels, or a jumpsuit and flats. When it comes to nailing your shoe-pant proportion, any combination can be a recipe for disaster if you don't check yourself out before you walk out the door. If your bottoms are meant to be cropped, more than just your ankle should be visible. If your skinnies are tight, try rolling them, especially if your booties have little details meant to be shown off, like a suede tassel. Try to avoid unflattering combinations, like a wide-leg silhouette and flat shoes, which might give off the illusion of shorter legs. Instead, a pointed-toe heel will elongate your stems and make you appear taller, even in breezy trousers.

Don't Overlook the Length of Your Slit

If you're wearing a dress or skirt with a slit - especially for a fancy event - test it out with the shoes you plan on wearing. Walk down the street in it! Take long strides! Make sure your silhouette is movable and doesn't constrict you. Most importantly, ensure that you're not showing too much skin from behind or too much leg from the side.

Know When to Tuck in Your Top

I am a big fan of tucking my top in. I do it with almost every outfit! I like the sleek lines it gives me because I feel sloppy if I leave it out. Just be frank about it - if your go-to jeans make your booty look great, let the area shine. Just because your top's a little slouchy, doesn't mean you can't tuck it in, tie it up, or pull it to the side. A too-long tunic with structured denim just doesn't work in your favor. Practice coordinating your separates and make sure they meet in perfect harmony.

Choose Hemlines That Are Appropriate For Your Height

Cut-offs that are too long for your short legs, crop tops that are too short for your long torso - these slip-ups happen. But don't let them discourage you from trying out trendy items. For example, petite women can wear longline utilitarian vests, and this look is proof! Just make sure you're buying pieces in the right size and wearing them with complementary accessories. If you're not sure, bring along a friend who's got an eye for style on your shopping trip. Or try asking a sales associate: "Does this fit me correctly?"

When You're Going For a Monochrome Look, Don't Clash Your Separates

Monochrome looks are actually ridiculously easy to pull off, when you're sticking to basics. A dark heather sweatshirt will meet your light-wash gray denim, subtly drawing attention to the creases in your jeans. Instead of reaching for similar materials, the key to monochrome actually lies in contrasting textures. Accenting your look with a striking pair of shoes or playful jewels also helps to pull it all together and contributes a little extra polish.

Be Sure Not to Reveal Too Much of Your Bra

Sexy, strappy bras are on the rise. In fact, we've got a bit of our wardrobe sectioned off for them. But revealing the eye-catching details can be tricky. You want to show off your lingerie with sophistication and class. So, if you're managing this with a white top, make sure it's opaque and not too loose. Finish your outfit with stylish separates, like frayed denim, that scream, "I'm here to make a statement." And most importantly, work your look with confidence.

Don't put yourself inside a box

Don't feel like because you like preppy clothes, that you have to dress preppy 24/7. Feel free to mix it up! Do grunge one day and dinner with the President the next. The great thing about fashion is that's it's basically a buffet. Style is how you own it. And style, should be fun!

THE TRUTH ABOUT 9 LOVE RULES

Hello Lovely,

Dating rules have changed. Again. But even though the playing field has become a bit of uncharted territory, some traditional dating do's and don’ts still apply. Some people have rules for when you should call, how often or if at all. But don’t get swept up in trends and fads that leave you heartbroken. Learn the truth about 9 common (and some new) rules when it comes to dating!

1.      Say “I love you” every day.

Perhaps the most important love rule is to just say it. Say “I love you”. We often get so caught up in daily activities that we don’t always remind our loved ones how we feel. Some may say that if their partner needs to hear it every day, then they have a self-esteem issue. That could be true, but why risk letting your loved ones think you’ve taken them for granted. Life is short and unpredictable, love anyway; and let the people you love, know that you love them.

2.      Play hard to get.

This is the biggest destroyer of intimacy. If you’re looking for a true relationship, you can’t start it off by playing games. Deception has no place in romance. It’s one thing if you play hard to get and another if you really are hard to get. Sometimes we’re just so busy we need to be chased a little, yes. Or maybe we need to show our partner that we have standards and won’t fall for just anything. In those cases, these are fine. But intentionally misleading your partner to make them work harder than they should just because it amuses you or your friends will only lead to broken hearts, including your own.

3.      Your spouse shouldn’t be your best friend.

Whoever said this has no idea how to have a happy relationship. I tell my best friends everything (but not everything at the same time). When I’m in a relationship there are some things I’ll tell my partner and some things I won’t, but I’ll tell another best friend. Not because I don’t trust my partner with the information, but it just may not pertain to him. I expect to have full(ish) confidentiality, truthfulness and disclosure with my partner. This is how I view relationships: When you’re my best friend, I expect to talk to you every day or every other day. If I can go weeks without talking to you, then I don’t need you in my life. I’m fine without you, but I chose you to be in my life, so act like it. If your partner isn’t your best friend, then what are they and why are they in your life?

4.      Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

As I am in a long distance relationship, I can vouch for this. We can count on one hand how many times we will get to physically see each other per year so it definitely makes us value that time together. However, it doesn’t come without stress because texting, phone calls and Skype can only do so much (sorry technology). It’s not the real thing and for some people can lead to rifts in emotional connections, making people stray.

5.      You can learn to love someone.

Have you ever seen the Zoosk commercial with the slogan, “First comes like”? It’s a modern play on the old adage, “First comes love then comes marriage.” But if you know anything about dating, love does not come first. I’ll admit, when I saw my boyfriend’s online dating profile, it was love at first sight for me, quickly followed by a, “I don’t know about this” once I kept reading. But when we spoke, I learned to look past things that turned out not be such a big issue. Don’t think of it as settling. But also, don’t force yourself to love someone just for the sake of being with someone or because you’re afraid to hurt them. Love takes time, and you should learn to love everyone individually, as you build trust and friendship.

6.      Never go to bed angry.

I’m a firm believer in this one. I’ve learned with my boyfriend that just because I need to discuss something doesn’t mean that he is willing to discuss something and he has learned the same. But one thing we value is never going to bed angry. We always try our best to hash it out before saying goodbye, and ending things with “I love you”. There have been times when we just couldn’t reach a solution and I woke up the next day feeling angrier because I lost sleep over the issue. There have also been times when I woke up the next day over it and just ready to move on. So while you shouldn’t go to bed angry, don’t think that you have to solve every problem before hitting the hay. Sometimes letting the issue air out is best before you say something you’ll regret.

7.      Having kids will bring you closer.

This one is a lie from the pits of hell! Children are wonderful gifts from above, yeah, yeah, yeah. Children are huge energy and financial strains that you’re stuck with for life, not just 18 years. I’m 25 and still living at home with my mother! Any couple will tell you that you lose time, privacy, and intimacy. And don’t think that having kids will make him stay. If you’re not married, he has no reason to stay with you. He made no commitment to you, let alone this human being that you decided to bring into the world. I know girls whose boyfriend’s left them while they were pregnant. Work on your problems before the baby comes, because it’ll be a lot harder afterwards.

8.      You can never be too close.

SO FALSE! You guys are going to need your own space! I know you don’t want to take one another for granted but don’t smother them!

9.      Love conquers all.

Love does not conquer poverty, addiction, abuse or imprisonment. I know as Christians we are called to love unconditionally in our marriages, but we are not God and therefore do not have to put up with any form of abuse whether it be physical or emotional. We are worth more than that, and if our partner cannot see that, we do not have to stay miserable. I don’t care what anyone says; things like domestic and sexual abuse cannot be “prayed away”. Love is a big part of a lasting relationship, but shared values and commitment are still required.