What To Do When You Miss Your Ex

Hello Lovely,

Summer is coming and with that a lot of flings, break ups and regret. If you're like me, you're heading into summer single. But don't be bitter about it. And for the love of God, put down the phone, do not call them! It's over! I know it's not easy to just walk away from a relationship especially if it last several years and there were talks of marriage. You're going to miss them, you will. It may not be now, but there will come a time when you ask yourself, "What if?" You can't allow yourself to stay in the pits about it. Here are 5 tips to help you get through those moments when you miss your ex.  

Disable Your Social Media Accounts

You could delete your social media accounts, but this is a bit extreme. Instead, it’s better to unfriend them and unfollow them on all social media accounts. When you miss your ex, it’s really tempting to pop onto Facebook and see how they're doing. But this just makes everything so much worse. You see that he’s doing just fine without you, and it makes you feel bad. (Or maybe you see that you were right to leave because nothing has changed and they're still the same jack wad you got tired of dealing with). Either way, it’s a much better idea to spend some time away from social media for a while. Give yourself some breathing space. I'm sure you're tired of answering people's questions about why your status changed from "In a Relationship" to "Single".

Get Outside

Staying in bed all day waiting for her to reply to your “I miss you” text might sound like a great idea right now. After all, you can’t even summon the motivation needed to get out of bed, let alone leave your house. But this is unhealthy and will only make you feel a lot worse. And while I understand that you want to be left alone right now, you’re reading this article for a reason. And I think it’s a fab idea that you head outdoors.

Getting out and about among people will help you to forget about him or her for a while. Your mind will be excited by new experiences, sensations, smells, sights and so on. You could take a walk, travel to a new city or just hang out with friends in a coffee shop.

Soaking up fresh air and exposing yourself to the sunshine will remind you that there is life beyond the boy/girl. They were good, but they weren’t everything.

Channel Demi Lovato's "Sorry Not Sorry"

I LOOOOOOOOVE this song! And it's not just the ultimate break up song. Every time I hear this, I just want to sing it to everyone who ever doubted me, put me down or tried to hurt me. It's a reminder that at the end of the day, you've got to always be your best self and prove the haters wrong. You don't need to be sorry for being awesome or for having high standards. Make them sorry for not seeing and appreciating that beauty within you.

Work on Your Revenge Body

This is probably the hardest one on the list. You probably gained a lot of that comfortable "relationship weight" (similar to the freshman 15), because you thought you'd never have to look for another lover again. And comfort food is so real right now, because no one heals you better than a pint of your favourite ice cream (or a pan of macaroni, not judging). But if you focus too much on eating your feelings, you're taking away from the outside beauty that can lead to finding the one. Sure "the one" should love you regardless, but let's be real, we all have our limits and preferences when it comes to love. So whether it's cutting back, going back to school, hitting the gym or meditating, do what you need to do to create a better version of yourself.

Don’t Think About “What If …”

We’ve all been there. We’ve all dwelt on ‘what if’s …’ and imagined what life would be like if only we’d have done this or that differently. But the ‘what if …’ game is the cruelest game of all, and we always lose. We like to create these stories and imagine false illusions and fantasies of a better life. We like to roll the dice for a second time in our heads and smile at better results. But reality is not like that and never will be. Had you the chance to go back in time and do everything again, you would make the same decisions. Nothing would change. Everything happens for a reason, and the reason you did the things you did is because it felt right at the time. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Forget about the past and live in the present. It is what it is.

You had a great time with your ex and you miss them. And maybe you’re thinking about what could have been had things not ended.

But things ended for a reason. So why not take some time to analyse what went wrong in your relationship? In this way, you can learn from your mistakes so that you don’t repeat them in your next relationship.

Stay happy!

14 Fun Ways to Celebrate Your Singledom This Spring

Hello Lovely,

And hello Spring Break! Some of you may have already had spring break, some may have not started yet. But either way, we're approaching the end of another school year and the beginning of a season of adventures! That's right it's officially Spring! Spring sprung yesterday! I've got some plans for this week that I can't share just yet. If you have every intention of meeting a cutie on the beach—go for it! However, spring break doesn't have to be all about finding your "spring fling." Here are some awesome ways to have fun without focusing on getting that romcom-worthy smooch.

1. Host Sunday Brunch With the Girls

Everyone girl has a Serena to her Blair!

Everyone girl has a Serena to her Blair!

Brunch is one of the best meals to host, since there is a lot more flexibility than at a Friday or Saturday night dinner. For one, brunches can last as long or as short as you like. Most of the time, friends will have plans for the afternoon and won’t stay all day, but sometimes they’ll have nothing to do, and some of our best brunches have lasted almost until dinner. On the other hand, if you have plans, everyone will understand.

Beyond those perks, there is the inevitable con that brunch occurs relatively early. Set your own schedule. If you’re not an early bird, don’t invite anyone over before 1:00 pm.  

2. Take a Just-Because Road Trip

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IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII want to soak up the sun!!!!!!!

Plan your route and stops ahead of time, but keep an open mind. Try not to stress about it too hard and remember that it will probably make a good story someday. It's also a good idea to keep loose plans because you never know when fun and interesting opportunities will arise. You could be driving by one of most popular roadside attractions along the way, so think about including "free time" in your itinerary. Don't forget to have a solid budget and look for ways to save on cash.

3. Plant a Garden With a Pal

How else are you going to take those oh so important #OOTD photos?

How else are you going to take those oh so important #OOTD photos?

April is finally here and your garden soil is finally warming up! April is the best time to plant most of your vegetable seeds after your last frost. It's still not too late to plant tomatoes and peppers from seeds as well. Gardening also offers some less visible, but perhaps equally sustaining benefits — whether your garden is a small patio planter, a backyard vegetable garden or a plot in a community garden. It’s no coincidence that gardens aimed at interactive health and healing have been popping up in prisons, hospitals, nursing homes, and in community centers for homeless populations and at-risk youth. 

4. Spend a Day at the Museum/Art Gallery/Zoo/Botanical Garden

Cause Knowledge is Power!

Cause Knowledge is Power!

A day at the museum (or any attraction site) often translates to a day spent with loved ones. Museums Art Galleries, Botanical Gardens and Zoos are effective ways to learn while having fun and gaining inspiration.

5. Train For a Race

Go DIVA GO!

Go DIVA GO!

Training for a race, even your first race, is not hard if you have the tools in hand to do it right. Always have a goal in mind,  get comfortable, properly fitted running shoes and stick to your plan.

6. Hit Up Happy Hour With Co-Workers

"So then I was like, Get your own damn stapler!"

"So then I was like, Get your own damn stapler!"

Who doesn't like drinking with friends? If you've had an extra hard day, instead of going home and drinking alone with your cat, hit up a happy hour with some co-workers or friends and blow off some steam!

7. Hike Your City

Despite my horrific, near death experience hiking with GGYA (and that was only the practice hike) one of my goals is to go hiking for real. And some of you may think, but we live in the Bahamas, where are you going to hike? The Bimini Nature Hiking Trail gives visitors a rarely seen glimpse of the island. You will not only be able to learn more about Bimini’s animal and plant life, but also hear stories about the ecology and history of Bimini. You can even hike in Andros. I did that back in 2009, and fell in the love with the island!

8. Bake With Your BFFs

If I'm going to get fat, you're getting fat with me!

If I'm going to get fat, you're getting fat with me!

When the weekend finally rolls around dust off your wooden spoon and bowl and spend some time baking delicious treats. The weekend is the perfect time to bake up a storm – with all that extra time on your hands, why not try your hand at something a little more difficult like piping or a delicious layer cake? Invite some friends over to taste-test your creations, or simply relax and indulge with the family. Weekend baking is extra rewarding because you don’t have to rush, and so you can really take your time getting those baked goodies just right.

9. Spend a Day at the Bookstore

If you're into books and reading, then getting lost in a book store or library is the perfect way to spend the day. There are so many options and reading is also a great way to pass the time!

10. Treat Yourself to Fresh Flowers

I did this on my birthday and resolved every month to treat myself to fresh food store flowers (hey I got a budget to work with). They were yellow and purple (don't ask me the type) because they were the cheapest flowers in the store at only $8 per bunch. For the time that they were alive, they made me so happy to look at, so I would definitely recommend other women doing this! Because sometimes a girl just needs to buy herself some flowers.

11. Start a Romance-Novel-Only Book Club

If we have to discuss 50 Shades of Grey one more time...

If we have to discuss 50 Shades of Grey one more time...

If you're looking for a book club to join, check with your library. Libraries often provide meeting space for book clubs and many administer their own book discussion groups. Participating in reading group discussions does wonders for your communication skills, and reading groups with a rotating roster of leaders means that everyone has a chance to practise their leadership skills and the management of a group of people, with different backgrounds and opinions. For those with writing aspirations, book clubs can be a wonderful breeding ground for ideas as well as provide the motivation for you to pen your own literary masterpiece.

12. Sign Up For a Dance Class

Run? I thought they said Rum!

Run? I thought they said Rum!

I'll be honest. I'm really bad at exercising. Like if I have to run, or do any kind of cardio, I guarantee you I will lose my lunch (it has happened, sorry Club One). But give me a dance class, or a good dancing session in the club, and I am pumped! The number of people taking part in dance classes world wide is increasing, with dance allowing people to be more active, socialise within local communities and develop creative skills.

13. Indulge in a Solo Spa Day

Inhale peace, exhale the bull...

Inhale peace, exhale the bull...

Between hectic work schedules and taking care of yourself, you probably already have plenty of reasons to pamper yourself with a spa day! Spending a day at the spa offers so many benefits that if you don’t already have reasons to pamper yourself, you will after learning what a spa day can do for your mind and body. It’s important to take time out of your busy schedule to take care of yourself, and a day at the spa is the perfect way to unwind.

14. Plan a Relaxing Vacation

Summer beach body here I come!

Summer beach body here I come!

Work driving you crazy? Sick of the same old scenery? Need a break from the usual? Then it’s time for a relaxing vacation! A relaxing vacation is about you, your family or a friend who’s in need of one too. Whether you’re alone or with others you have to try to get the most out of your vacation.